Learn to appreciate that just because your bb is a listener doesn't mean he or she is insecure.
Your partner is actually secure enough to know that they don't need validation.
Have you ever heard that famous line from , "You are the wind beneath my wings? My partner is the rock I can lean on, the person I can depend on.
The first time I met Michael, I thought he hated me.We swiped each other on Tinder, I told him I liked his dimples, and after a few days of nonstop witty texting, we met for drinks at a hipster hangout in the East Village. I don’t think he said more than a few words during the whole evening.I always assumed that being the loudest person in the room (ahem, me) meant that you were also the most confident. It’s not the person who talks the most who has the most interesting things to say, it’s often the person who only speaks when he or she has something of substance to add to the conversation.Now I know that Michael speaks up when he has something to add, not as some show of bravado.Dating an introvert has been an interesting change—one that's made me more confident and comfortable with myself.
When my partner and I first moved in together, the biggest source of conflict in our relationship was how loudly it's appropriate to listen to Bikini Kill while washing the dishes (Me: as loud as it will go; my partner: "Oh my god, please turn that off."). When you establish exactly what you want out of going out or staying in, it's often possible to find an activity that suits both your needs. Talk about what both of you need to make your time together feel like a valuable and refreshing break.4.
Be sure to manage your expectations Expecting someone who isn’t used to texting all the time to text you all time is illogical.
So is wanting a guy who isn’t into partying to party with your every weekend.
The text game and sexual attraction were strong across the airwaves. I carried the conversation; regaling him with stories of wild nights out. But the next day he texted me that he’d had an amazing time and wanted to take me out again. How could he possibly have thought that was a good date? I agreed to a second date out of pure curiosity (and horniness).
All my previous boyfriends were life-of-the-party-guys—men who fed off my energy and swept me up in tumultuous emotions. I realized he wasn’t quiet because he wasn’t feeling my vibe; he was quiet because he was a listener who genuinely enjoyed soaking up everything I said. Almost three years later, I’m pretty confident I'm going to marry the guy.
Which is why, as a now-expert on the subject, this is my advice to all other extroverts looking to date an introvert.